Why would you engage in a competition that distracts you from achieving your best in life?
Everyone is born with potential for greatness in life.However, not everyone attains greatness in life. To get the best in life require some basic principles which must be identified, understood and implemented. So many people are not privy to this insight, hence, the reason for baseless competition.
Competition is a temptation in the race of life. Although, we all are in the race of life, but we are not running the same race in life. Everyone has his definite purpose in life. The earlier you discover that, the better you stay on your lane to be the best you should be without competing with anyone. This is what makes competition irrelevant in the race.
3 SOURCES OF IRRELEVANT COMPETITION IN THE RACE.
- Peer Pressure
- Societal expectations
- Self-inflicted expectations
Peer Pressure:
No one is an island.Each one of us belong to demographic groups (age bracket)For example, your class mates are most times your peer group. If for instance, ten years after graduation from university, you run into your old class mate in his 2020 model Toyota and you are driving a rickety 2002 Toyota car. The first thing that will probably come to your mind once you depart from your friend will be “who do I offend?” Or “why have I not made it in life?” You only ran into an old colleague from school to spend few minutes together and you are caught up in the web of competition. In your sub-conscious you are already comparing your life with his. The re-union that ought to bring back good old memory suddenly turn out to be the sad day of your life. This feeling may continue for days and months and may gradually lead you into depression.
Societal expectations:
Another way we allow irrelevant competition to rub us of our peace of mind is through societal expectations. When you allow “what will people say “syndrome to control your lifestyle, this puts a lot of people under undue pressure. You will always want to satisfy the society or meet up with the false “societal standards”
You don’t have to necessarily do things to please the society; you only need to do things that are needful and lawful. For instance, when you gave birth to your first child, you were buoyant enough to throw a big naming ceremony. Now that you have the second child, you cannot afford elaborate naming ceremony because, between the times you got married, had the first child and second child, your bills have geometrically increased, with no corresponding increase in income. In an attempt to please your wife, in-laws and neighbors, you choose to secure a loan in order to throw a big ceremony, and afterwards putting yourself under financial pressure which could have been avoided.
Self inflicted expectations:
“A whole me” syndrome had pushed a lot of people into depression. When you think you have raised a particular threshold for yourself that must not be lowered. Once you fall below the benchmark, you unconsciously condemn yourself as a failure and allow your life to become miserable. Imagine if you have built a house and have a successful business running, but in recent time, the unexpected happens and your business is badly affected. You’re left withthe option of auctioning your only house to keep business afloat. You are likely to allow depression into your mind. The feeling of ” a whole me” now a tenant again is enough to becloud your mind from seeing the bright future ahead again. At this time the saying that “life is in phases and men are in sizes” will have no significant meaning to such minds.
The foregoing discussions are three limiting factors that can hinder one’s greatness in life. The less we focus on the competition in the race of life, the more we stay focused on our goals that bring success our way.
Get the best out of what life has on offer for you as you major on achieving the goals you have set to achieve in life, while you minor on major things that distract you from achieving your best in life. 80/20 rule.
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Quite instructive! Kudos!
Nice reading this thought. Competition can and should definitely be avoided at these 3 areas of everyone’s life for a fulfilling life. However, I think there are still area of our life where competition is legitimate, unavailable and should be encouraged to allow a better us to emerge. For instance, in business, sports, schools etc., competition is a must. U must put on a good fight to win again ur opponents or competitors in sales (business), mates in exams/school etc.
May our lives be filled with bliss, happiness and satisfaction.
Shalom
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Great piece!
If we must allow competition, it must be with our very selves.
In that way we will progressively and consistently raise the bar by breaking our own previous records.
You are your only competition. Apt!
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